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Feature Article:
The 7 Habits Of Highly Ineffective People And How To Avoid Them (the habits, not the people!)
Which of the following highly ineffective behaviours do you recognize in people you work with and others you know?
- The Running Around In Circles Technique (also known as the Chasing Your Tail Technique and the Paper Shuffling Technique) where people are very busey 'doing' things (sometimes even frantically!) but actually achieve nothing.
- The Stick Your Head In The Sand Technique (closely related to The Run And Hide Technique) where people completely ignore an issue pretending it doesn’t exist.
- The "La La La La La I’m Not Listening" Technique (closely related to The Dig In Your Heels Technique) where people stubbornly take a stand and refuse to listen to other points of view and/or consider other options.
- The Kick The Cat Technique where people vent their frustrations by taking them out on other people and/or animals (eg: by yelling at them) and/or inanimate objects (eg: by slamming phones and doors).
- The "Why Does This Always Happen To Me?" Technique where people waste time lamenting their predicament rather than doing something about it.
- The Bore Everyone To Tears Technique (closely related to the “I’m So Busy” Technique) where people talk incessantly about what they have to do rather than getting on and doing it.
- The "I Just Have To Do This First" Technique (also known as the “As soon as I ...” Technique) where people busy themselves doing low priority activities when they know they have high priority activities that require their attention. Mystically, the low priority activities become monumentally important!
It’s easy to recognize these behaviours in others. It’s also easy to recognize how ineffective they are.
Now, here’s the more important question. How many of these behaviours do you recognize in yourself?
All of these highly ineffective behaviours are avoidance behaviours. Each of them will occupy your time and energy in doing something other than what really needs doing.
Problem is; you have something to do and you don’t want to do it.
Bigger problem is; the longer you put it off the more stress you’re likely to create for yourself;
- The stakes get higher
- The deadline gets closer
- Other people involved get more angry & frustrated
So why don’t we want to do what we know we need to do?
FEAR. We’re scared of it. Each of these 7 Highly Ineffective Habits is a stress response, an avoidance strategy and/or procrastination strategy.
Why are we scared?
- We haven’t done it before and don’t know how to do it
- We have done it before and it didn’t work out well
- We anticipate a surly response, a rejection
- We set monumentally high expectations for performance that we don't believe we can achieve.
In each case, we look into the future and imagine a negative outcome - which makes us feel bad. So we put it off using one of the 7 highly ineffective habits.
In the next newsletter, we’ll discuss how you can avoid the highly ineffective habits. In the meantime, 3 questions for you:
- Which of these highly ineffective habits do you have?
- When was the last time you used them?
- What are you avoiding?
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